The sense of who we are is created in part out of our own belief structure. Our values, dreams, aspirations and inner sense of self. And part out of what we see around us: our culture, societal structures, social norms, expectations and pro-social behavior.
When we tell ourselves "This is not who we are" as a mantra of sorts, in order to convince ourselves that we are essentially good and the deviant events we are disavowing through these words, are extreme examples of behavior and values that do not represent us, we are basically living in denial of the fact that this is who we are becoming.
The world we live in is a construct created out of the collective actions, beliefs and values of us all. Right now the fate of that construct is up in the air. How it progresses is really up to us.
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